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<h1 data-aos="fade-down" id="daily-dose">Daily-Dose</h1>
<h1 data-aos="fade-right" data-aos-anchor-placement="top-bottom" id="contents">Contents</h1>
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<li><a href="#from-new-yorker">From New Yorker</a></li>
<li><a href="#from-vox">From Vox</a></li>
<li><a href="#from-the-hindu-sports">From The Hindu: Sports</a></li>
<li><a href="#from-the-hindu-national-news">From The Hindu: National News</a></li>
<li><a href="#from-bbc-europe">From BBC: Europe</a></li>
<li><a href="#from-ars-technica">From Ars Technica</a></li>
<li><a href="#from-jokes-subreddit">From Jokes Subreddit</a></li>
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<h1 data-aos="fade-right" id="from-new-yorker">From New Yorker</h1>
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<li><p data-aos="fade-left" data-aos-anchor-placement="bottom-bottom"><strong>The Congressional-Staffer Rebellion</strong> - With climate legislation in peril and time running out, a group of young aides broke from a tradition of deference and staged a sit-in at Chuck Schumers office, demanding action. - <a href="https://www.newyorker.com/news/the-political-scene/climate-change-sit-in-congressional-staffers-schumer-office">link</a></p></li>
<li><p data-aos="fade-left" data-aos-anchor-placement="bottom-bottom"><strong>The Aging Student Debtors of America</strong> - In an era of declining wages and rising debt, Americans are not aging out of their student loans—they are aging into them. - <a href="https://www.newyorker.com/news/us-journal/the-aging-student-debtors-of-america">link</a></p></li>
<li><p data-aos="fade-left" data-aos-anchor-placement="bottom-bottom"><strong>Will “Dereliction of Duty” Be What Finally Gets Donald Trump Indicted?</strong> - So far, the evidence of what Trump didnt do on January 6th holds the strongest potential for making a successful criminal case against him. - <a href="https://www.newyorker.com/news/daily-comment/will-dereliction-of-duty-finally-be-what-gets-donald-trump-indicted">link</a></p></li>
<li><p data-aos="fade-left" data-aos-anchor-placement="bottom-bottom"><strong>Trump vs. Biden, and Biden vs. Trump: Lets Call the Whole Thing Off</strong> - Was this week a preview of our next two years of duelling Presidents? - <a href="https://www.newyorker.com/news/letter-from-bidens-washington/trump-vs-biden-and-biden-vs-trump-lets-call-the-whole-thing-off">link</a></p></li>
<li><p data-aos="fade-left" data-aos-anchor-placement="bottom-bottom"><strong>Joe Manchins Latest Reversal Could Be a Game Changer</strong> - Finally, some positive news for President Biden and the Democrats despite the new G.D.P. report. - <a href="https://www.newyorker.com/news/our-columnists/joe-manchins-latest-reversal-could-be-a-game-changer">link</a></p></li>
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<h1 data-aos="fade-right" id="from-vox">From Vox</h1>
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<li><strong>This summers movies are all about love</strong> -
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<img alt="A triptych with three images: an older woman looking into the distance, a virtual reality avatar of a girl with pink hair, and an animated shell sitting on a remote control." src="https://cdn.vox-cdn.com/thumbor/MyVGrYHbPnE3w3mqoQoeVHqjz9w=/200x0:3400x2400/1310x983/cdn.vox-cdn.com/uploads/chorus_image/image/71186705/headshots_1658941756856.0.jpg"/>
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From left: Dale Dickey in <em>A Love Song</em>, Jenny in <em>We Met in Virtual Reality</em>, and Marcel in <em>Marcel the Shell with Shoes On.</em> | Bleecker Street/HBO Films/A24
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Loneliness, longing, and love in the third pandemic summer.
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I look back on the rom-coms of my youth with fondness now, but its hard to deny their everlasting samey-sameness. I do mean the plots, sort of; the romantic comedy takes a well-worn path, and thats part of its charm. But mostly what I mean is the faces. Theyre all pretty career women who are secretly quirky, or a mess, or need to be taken down a peg, and slightly roguish or maybe awkward men. Not only are they always conventionally attractive, but theyre often the same exact <em>people</em>.
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Which worked well enough for the time. But different times demand different measures. And in this summers crop of movies about love — <em>not</em> romantic comedies, to be sure, but often something better — new kinds of<strong> </strong>stories are breaking through.
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The summer movie season started (early) with a bang: <em>Everything Everywhere All At Once</em>, a <a href="https://www.vox.com/culture/23025832/everything-everywhere-all-at-once-parental-apology-fantasy-turning-red">maximalist multiverse comedy</a> about a woman named Evelyn (Michelle Yeoh) who desperately wants to reconnect with her daughter (Stephanie Hsu). Its not only about parents and children — Evelyns marriage is disintegrating, and her adventures across universes extend to her hapless but sweet husband (Ke Huy Quan). Yet, while coverage of the films charm to audiences also focused on <a href="https://www.vox.com/culture/23024945/everything-everywhere-all-at-once-multiverse-explained-quantum-physicist">the multiverse aspect</a> (likely thanks to the films executive producers, MCU darlings Joe and Anthony Russo), the real appeal had little to do with the situation in which the characters found themselves. It was the story — losing and finding love in ones own family, in this case a distinctly Asian one — that left audiences weeping and <a href="https://deadline.com/2022/06/everything-everywhere-all-at-once-a24-box-office-record-2-1235042399/">coming back for more</a>.
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<img alt="Evelyn stands in between her daughter, Joy, and forces who would like to kill her, as her husband Waymond also looks on." src="https://cdn.vox-cdn.com/thumbor/4VQw4sng9MAzlgZvRqB1swpGDEg=/800x0/filters:no_upscale()/cdn.vox-cdn.com/uploads/chorus_asset/file/23409580/eeaao.jpg"/> <cite>A24</cite>
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<em>Everything Everywhere All At Once</em> is about the bonds between family that extend across universes.
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But thankfully, <em>Everything Everywhere All At Once </em>has been far from the end of the summer of (movies about) love. Looking at the list, it becomes clear that almost all of them have a few things in common. Theyre not just movies about romance or even familial love. Theyre about loneliness. And they feature the kind of characters who never had a shot in the rom-com age.
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Take <em>Marcel the Shell With Shoes On</em>, for instance. Based on the <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VF9-sEbqDvU&amp;ab_channel=DeanFleischer-Camp">viral YouTube shorts</a> of a decade ago, the feature is about an inch-high shell named Marcel (voiced by Jenny Slate) who lives a lonely life with his grandmother, Nana Connie (Isabella Rossellini) in a largely vacant Airbnb. A filmmaker named Dean — mostly unglimpsed, but based on and played by writer-director Dean Fleischer-Camp — moves into the house after separating from his wife and meets Marcel, whos the perfect subject for a documentary. So they start filming together.
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Marcel has lost his family, and is resigned to never finding them again. By the time we finally meet them, we realize Marcel has extended his definition of “family” far past biology. To Marcel, “family” means community, which means Dean is part of it too. That Fleischer-Camp and Slate re-teamed to tell Marcels story, which they <a href="https://www.theglobeandmail.com/arts/film/article-most-exes-cant-be-in-the-same-room-but-jenny-slate-and-dean-fleischer/">first told when romantically involved</a>, but broke up years ago, adds levels of poignancy to the film. Love is love even when it evolves into something nobody anticipated.
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<img alt="Two little shells in a garden." src="https://cdn.vox-cdn.com/thumbor/GjDSz_EGxmaEgpLNeUdGdtIU_zM=/800x0/filters:no_upscale()/cdn.vox-cdn.com/uploads/chorus_asset/file/23904624/marcel1.jpeg"/> <cite>A24</cite>
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Marcel and Nana Connie in <em>Marcel the Shell With Shoes On.</em>
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Other movies have homed in on loneliness as they tell their love stories. There was <em>Brian and Charles </em>(June 17), a kind of warmly comedic take on <em>Frankenstein</em> in which an eccentric inventor in a tiny English village accidentally invents a robot that becomes his best friend and, eventually, his family. And <em>Girl Picture</em> (August 12) explores the experience of young, lonely teenage girls who have only one another as they try to navigate lives with unreliable parents and a confusing world.
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On the other end of the spectrum, theres <em>Crimes of the Future </em>(June 3), David Cronenbergs deeply weird but oddly stirring look at the ways people connect in an imagined, post-human, dystopic future, one in which our fascination with the inside of one anothers bodies fuels something deeper. Even <em>Flux Gourmet </em>(June 24), an intensely weird movie about an art retreat for “culinary performance artists,” dips into the strange ways we connect and find one another when were overcoming our loneliness.
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Two of the summers best offerings, <em>Good Luck to You</em>, <em>Leo Grande</em> (June 17) and <em>A Love Song</em> (July 29) look at love through the lens of loneliness and aging, in a way that feels starkly different from the rom-coms of yore. In the former, actress Emma Thompson plays a widow who hires a young, hot sex worker (Daryl McCormack) to … well, to be honest, shes not sure what she wants him to do, but she knows she cant go on feeling the way she does. Thompson, who is 63, <a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2022/06/15/movies/emma-thompson-good-luck-to-you-leo-grande.html">has talked openly</a> about how playing the part meant coming to terms with her own aging body, with looking at it and letting it be seen on screen. Its a still-unusual and wonderfully refreshing role from a brilliant actress.
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<img alt="A middle aged-man and woman sit on the ground, a trailer visible in the background." src="https://cdn.vox-cdn.com/thumbor/eg2kCVEu-286qhKGGjtLLvMroE4=/800x0/filters:no_upscale()/cdn.vox-cdn.com/uploads/chorus_asset/file/23904627/lovesong2.jpg"/> <cite>Bleecker Street</cite>
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Wes Studi and Dale Dickey in <em>A Love Song</em>.
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And its echoed in <em>A Love Song</em>, tonally a very different film but not all that different when its boiled down to its essence. The incredible (and incredibly underused) actress Dale Dickey plays Faye, a loner, whos a traveler living in a neat trailer. She hangs out in a campground, quietly mourning her late husband and awaiting the possible arrival of her old flame Lito (Wes Studi), who may or may not come to see her. Max Walker-Silverman wrote and directed the film, which plays like a fable or a folk song. Its glorious to see Dickey and Studi — both of whom are among their generations finest, and have the kind of faces youd never see in lead romantic roles in a Nancy Meyers film — get to bring the story to life. Love is hard, and confusing, and ever-changing. And telling the stories of late-in-life love gives us different ways to think about it.
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Just to show theres a wealth of stories to tell across the spectrum, two of the years best documentaries show love from the past and what feels like the future. The latter is <em>We Met in Virtual Reality</em> (July 27), a vérité documentary shot entirely inside the virtual reality platform VRChat. Director Joe Hunting interviews and follows (again, inside the platform) several groups of people, many of whom felt profoundly disconnected and isolated (especially in the early months of the pandemic) before finding community on the platform. In addition to classes and communities that have formed, he talks with friends and romantically involved couples who met on the platform and found that connections made in virtual space can translate far beyond pixels.
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<img alt="Two virtual reality avatars stand next to one another, their arms around one another affectionately." src="https://cdn.vox-cdn.com/thumbor/ls4D-PUE_krL6CLMefm-WiS8A0w=/800x0/filters:no_upscale()/cdn.vox-cdn.com/uploads/chorus_asset/file/23904632/vr3.jpg"/> <cite>HBO Films</cite>
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Space Bunny and Toaster, two participants in <em>We Met in Virtual Reality</em>, talk about their relationship.
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On the flip side is <em>Fire of Love</em> (July 6), <a href="https://www.vox.com/23206005/fire-love-review-interview-volcano-krafft">which uses archival footage from the 1960s and 1970s</a> to tell the story of Katia and Maurice Krafft, married volcanologists — a pair of loners — who died in a volcanic eruption in 1991. Knowing this brings a sweet sadness to the film, which director Sara Dosa crafts into a tale of love. Its not just about their relationship, though; its about how deeply they loved volcanoes, and how that love slowly grew into a love for humanity.
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Is it any wonder that these sorts of movies are emerging in the third summer after an isolating pandemic? Its been long enough now that pretty much any new movie you might see was shot, and maybe written, under pandemic conditions. Love, desire, wistfulness, isolation, yearning — theyre all emotions that people experienced under new circumstances and in new ways over the past several years. Artists often find themselves tasked with capturing the zeitgeist (the vibes, if you will) of the culture around them.
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Most of these movies are pretty funny, but you couldnt classify them as romantic comedies; those films usually focused on a narrow slice of love, the bit with the butterflies and the meet-cutes and the misunderstandings and the final kiss that says everything will be all right for these two pretty people. But deeper, broader stories bring a bigger context to love, in a world where hanging onto one another sometimes feels like all we have. Its okay to be carried away by the fantasy of love, of course. But the movies that ground us in what it is to be a part of a community, to find ourselves inside others hearts, to learn from love how to turn outward — those are the ones that I hope last long beyond this moment.
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Everything Everywhere All At Once <em>is available to rent and own on digital platforms. </em>Marcel the Shell With Shoes On <em>is playing in theaters. </em>Brian and Charles <em>is available to purchase on digital platforms. </em>Girl Picture <em>will open in theaters on August 12. </em>Crimes of the Future<em> is available to own on digital platforms.</em> Flux Gourmet <em>is available to rent and own on digital platforms. </em>Good Luck to You, Leo Grande <em>is </em><a href="https://www.hulu.com/movie/good-luck-to-you-leo-grande-b0243a6c-8add-4d53-a234-05a255c8989f"><em>streaming on Hulu</em></a><em>.</em> A Love Song <em>is playing in theaters. </em>We Met in Virtual Reality <em>is </em><a href="https://www.hbo.com/movies/we-met-in-virtual-reality"><em>streaming on HBO Max</em></a><em>. </em>Fire of Love <em>is playing in theaters.</em>
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<li><strong>What we mean when we say Beyoncé is “saving” house music</strong> -
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The album art for Beyoncés <em>Renaissance</em>. | Beyoncé
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Disco and house music are as American as hip-hop and rock n roll. But Americans have never fully embraced that idea.
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One of the most successful scams ever perpetrated on Americans is the idea that dance music sucks. We have been convinced that it has neither merit nor substance, and that it cannot be serious. The conspiracy has gone so far that people somehow believe dance music isnt American. In the odd case that dance music is so good that one cant help but love it, it can be easily brushed off as ironic appreciation.
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I get why this fraud has been so successful.
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Americans are, at a very young age, taught to be suspicious of joy. Anything that makes you happy has to have a drawback. If thats the case, then music thats designed to be joyful and make you dance cant be good, right?
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Enter: Beyoncé, arguably the biggest superstar and greatest performer in music today.
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Beyoncé is on the verge of releasing <em>Renaissance</em>, an album thats dance-centric and <a href="https://www.vogue.co.uk/fashion/article/beyonce-vogue-cover-new-music">reportedly</a> will borrow heavily from disco and house. She released the first single, “Break My Soul” in June, which used a sample of Robin S.s “Show Me Love” and incorporated <a href="https://www.vulture.com/2022/06/beyonc-break-my-soul-and-bringing-house-music-back.html">house music elements</a>.
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Its a moment, according to the press coverage surrounding its release, that may change the industry and shift the way we think about dance music, house music specifically. Her album comes on the heels of Drakes dance-heavy album <em>Honestly Nevermind</em>, another signal that dance music is ready for its moment.
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As a fan of Beyoncé and dancing (I make no claim to do it well), this is fantastic news.
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But the narrative that dance music needs changing or revitalization goes back to that pesky, ever-prevailing idea that dance music is not good to begin with. But dance music is as American as rock n roll, hip-hop, country, or R&amp;B and is just as serious and important a genre.
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“Everyone knows about Bruce Springsteen, and everyone knows that jazz started in the United States,” Shawn Reynaldo, a music journalist specializing in house and dance music, told me. “So why isnt it common knowledge that disco, house music, techno and electro, and all these other genres also came from Black American communities?”
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Reynaldo writes <a href="https://firstfloor.substack.com/">First Floor</a>, a newsletter laser-focused on dance music, and argues the fact that most Americans dont know or arent proud that the United States is the birthplace of house is a failure.
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Given his expertise, I thought Reynaldo would be the perfect person to explain most Americans tenuous if not superficial relationship to dance music, why that exists, and what Beyoncés new album does and doesnt mean for a genre that Americans seem so enthusiastically ready to declare is on life support. Our conversation, edited for length and clarity, is below.
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<strong>One of the things you wrote that fascinated me is that there seems to be an overarching and </strong><a href="https://firstfloor.substack.com/p/first-floor-133-house-music-isnt"><strong>faulty narrative</strong></a><strong> that Beyoncé and Drake are saving or revitalizing house music.</strong>
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<strong>If you look at the media thats covering Beys album, there are a lot of articles framing this as a resurrection. But you point out that this take is a little uninformed.</strong>
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I think that a lot of this is a very specifically American problem. I shouldnt say “problem” — it stems from a specifically American perspective. And its ironic because house music was literally created in the United States, in predominantly Black and brown queer communities. It just didnt catch on in America in the same way that it did in Europe, particularly in the UK, and the rest of the world.
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In the US, we didnt invest in dance music. We never said, “This is ours.” Nor do we talk about dance music in the way we do hip-hop or rock n roll. Hip-hop is something thats always felt very American in origin. The American music industry has put a lot of time and effort into it and has a lot of pride in it.
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Dance music, for whatever reason, was sort of seen as “silly” music that was sort of the antithesis of “serious” music. I would argue its kind of a hangover from disco, where <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/disco-demolition-night/id1380008439?i=1000487011024">disco was perceived</a> as this music for people of color and queer people and rock n roll was the predominant music at the time.
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<strong>Ive been rediscovering disco. I think one of the things that struck me is, looking back, a lot of the backlash disco faced was actually a reaction to the people who enjoyed disco — you mentioned Black and brown people of color and LGBTQ people. That backlash stuck around for so long, maybe even to this day. And its kind of funny now because theres a lot of music out there that might not formally be called “disco” but certainly has influences from it.</strong>
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House music, in a lot of ways, was a continuation of disco. Of course, its not that simple or linear. But certainly the thought of people dancing in clubs and the music being presented by DJs. And then the music just kind of evolved.
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The first really big push of dance music in the US was “electronica,” which was during the late 90s. There were groups like <a href="https://www.instagram.com/theprodigyofficial/?hl=en">The Prodigy</a>, and the <a href="https://www.thechemicalbrothers.com/">Chemical Brothers</a>, Fatboy Slim, and Daft Punk. These were big groups and that stuff got into pop music and hit the charts to some degree. But by that time, it was sold to American audiences as this foreign product, like, “Hey, this is music from Europe — these artists are from France, theyre from England. And this is this European sound.”
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Whats really ironic is that all those artists were taking cues from pioneering American house and techno artists who are from cities like Detroit, Chicago, and New York.
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<strong>I remember that, and being obsessed with “British” music, which I would procure at the Virgin Megastore (RIP). </strong>
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It created the idea that house music or dance music in general was this foreign entity, and that idea kind of just lodged itself into the American psyche. It continued with EDM. If you think about when EDM happened, it was just sold and seen as, “Heres this huge music from Europe with these big festivals and were bringing it to America.”
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Yes, people will point out that Skrillex is American. People know who Skrillex is. People know who Daft Punk is. Theyre big artists.
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But at the same time, no one (relatively) knows <a href="https://ra.co/features/875">who Larry Heard is</a>. Hes one of the original Chicago house guys whos still around today and making music. Theres a whole slew of originators that just never really got the credit they deserved.
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<strong>As someone from the US who loves to dance and loves dance and disco music, thats frustrating. I kinda feel like I was lied to. </strong>
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Its kind of a failing on the part of the American music industry to now have educated audiences properly. This has been going on, you know, now for almost 40 years? Longer if you count disco.
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One thing I found, just as someone who interviews a lot of artists, is when Ive spoken to younger Black American artists — lets say under 30 — a lot of them tell me:
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“When I was a kid, I had no idea where this music came from. I thought this was white people music. I heard electronic music for the first time when I watched <em>The Matrix</em> or I heard it when I was watching Adult Swim on Cartoon Network, and I would hear the weird beats.”
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But then once they dug into it and figured out that there were a bunch of Black artists and this was a part of a Black cultural heritage that they never knew about, a lot of them are really upset about it, because theyre like, “Why wasnt I taught this?”
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<strong>I want to ask you, personally, what is it about dance music that makes us so reluctant to claim it? Why doesnt it feel American to Americans the way other music genres do? Why dont we embrace it?</strong>
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Some of it is the disco hangover. You can still find so many people that say “disco sucks,” and its been 50 years. Theres also dancing and anything that involves dancing. You know, a lot of cis straight men, especially, are very uptight about the idea of being in a club and dancing.
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Dance music, in general, is also more experiential in terms of appreciating it.
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<strong>I think I understand what you mean, but could you spell it out for me?</strong>
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You can put on a house track at home, but theyre not really designed to be pop songs. It varies, but a lot of house tracks will be like seven minutes long. And they start with a minute and a half of really minimal drums at the beginning and really minimal drums at the end, because theyre designed with function in mind.
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That function is so DJs can blend one track into the next. So these tracks arent necessarily the kind of thing that lends itself to being played on the radio or being on a Spotify playlist. A lot of house music is specifically designed to be played in a club, on a loud sound system, on a packed dance floor where youre surrounded by other people that are also dancing to this music.
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When house and techno first started, the DJ wouldnt even be the focal point of the party. No one was looking at them. Even if you were going because you knew your favorite DJ was playing, the idea wasnt to go and see them, it was to go hear them. That just doesnt sync with how Americans consume pop music or rock music or hip hop or R&amp;B or any of the kinds of music that have been dominant in the pop sphere over the last several decades.
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<strong>Recently I was at Pride here in New York City, and Galantis was playing and SG Lewis had a DJ set right after. And yeah, there was this pocket of time where you just had to take in the moment and experience. But also there was a funny point where someone leaned over and asked why SG Lewis wasnt playing </strong><em><strong>his</strong></em><strong> music.</strong>
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A lot of people dont understand that DJs arent playing music that they made, theyre playing music that other people made. Theres an art to curating a DJ set and picking which records go in what place.
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The records themselves are made by producers, who might not even be DJs at all and they might not be performers. On the other side of that, theres a lot of artists that do both. And because of the economics in the music industry, a lot of producers now have to DJ because, oddly enough, theres a lot more money in DJing than there is in making the music.
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In America, dance music is still basically a foreign language for the vast majority of people. To be fair, it doesnt help that a lot of “hardcore” or dedicated electronic music fans, like any subculture (the same thing happened with punk rock), are protective of their community.
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<strong>I get that. Its the reality of pop culture that, thanks to the internet, anything can go from niche to overexposed seemingly overnight.</strong>
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Its like, “Hey, weve been doing this for decades, and mainstream and pop music hasnt paid any attention to us. And now they want to show up. And Beyoncé wants to do a house record.”
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<strong>Have you noticed that protectiveness happening? I talked to a friend who, in passing, told me that Beyoncés record was actually </strong><em><strong>bad</strong></em><strong> house music. I am not revealing who this friend is because those are incendiary comments and the Beyhive is powerful. But I was like, “Are you actually mad that its actually bad house music or are you mad that its Beyoncé?”</strong>
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I will say that neither the Beyoncé single or the Drake album are house music in the traditional sense. They are not what the average house music DJ would consider a house record. These are pop records that have elements of house music. And maybe thats making a very fine distinction. But in dance music, where there are dozens, if not hundreds, of different subgenres within it, people are very particular about which styles they like.
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You know, there is sort of a protectiveness about what constitutes house music and what doesnt. This is changing a bit, and genres are constantly becoming more fluid. But I would say most dedicated house music fans wouldnt say that the Beyoncé record or the Drake album are really house music. And whether theyre good or not, its very much in the eye of the beholder.
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<strong>Thats very diplomatic of you!</strong>
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Im personally not a big fan of Drake or Beyoncé, but Im also just one person. Im also not really a big pop music guy and never have been, so it would be really presumptuous of me to be like, “Oh, this is bad.” Im a lot more like, “Its not for me,” as opposed to, “Its bad.”
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What I do think is bad is the fact that music journalists are running with this narrative that Drake and Beyoncé are revitalizing house music, because the subtext of that is that house music was dead or dormant and had disappeared.
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<strong>Right. The implication and framing of Beyoncé and Drake as saviors implies that house music needed to be saved. I suppose that means from dying? Maybe saved from being bad? </strong>
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Its just factually wrong. And it shows a real sort of laziness. It also just reflects how out of touch even professional American music journalists are with electronic music and dance music in the US because, you would think a professional, someone who literally writes about music for a living, would at least have a passing knowledge of this or, if not, would research it.
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Its always easier to pitch something as a paradigm shift, as opposed to telling a nuanced story online.
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<strong>Do you think that instead of using words like “revitalization” or “resurgence” or “resurrection” — and correct me if Im wrong — this may be Beyoncé partaking in a trend? If we think of house music as a worldwide phenomenon and dance- and disco-inspired music as a growing feature in pop music, it could sort of make sense that Beyoncé is capitalizing on our growing appreciation for dance music? </strong>
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I mean, Im reluctant to ascribe motive to anyones creative choices, right? And I would like to think that theyre not that cynical.
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I will say this: Both Drake and Beyoncé have experimented with a lot of different genres of music in a way that they still sound like themselves.
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Drake has done previous stuff with Afrobeats, which is something that came out of <a href="https://theconversation.com/from-nigeria-to-the-world-afrobeats-is-having-a-global-moment-179910">Nigeria</a> and <a href="https://www.masterclass.com/articles/afrobeat-music-guide">Ghana</a>. Its also big in the UK, where theres a big diaspora population. So I think these artists and their teams — the producers they work with— are just open to experimenting with new sounds.
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The Drake album, for instance, experiments with this genre called amapiano. Its sort of a house music variant thats gotten really popular in South Africa in the last two to three years. Its arguably like the biggest thing in South Africa right now and its crossed over into the pop charts.
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These artists are surrounded by smart people who are plugged into whats going on. And it makes sense, especially when theyre both on their — theyre probably both on at least album number six or more. Theyre going to try new things. If you think about someone like Diplo — Diplo has made a career out of doing this.
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<strong>Did you happen to see the terrible [now-deleted] tweet that claimed that Beyoncé ripped off Diplo? Twitter is a hellscape.</strong>
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Okay, but Diplo has literally been doing this forever. Hes taken stuff from dancehall, hes taken stuff from <a href="https://www.nbcnews.com/news/latino/brazilian-star-anitta-wants-baile-funk-go-global-reggaeton-n1258373">baile funk</a>, which is this Brazilian dance style. Hes taken stuff from different kinds of hip-hop, house, techno, electro, and you know, he just kind of melds it all into this sort of mutant form of pop music.
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I think in his mind, if its fresh and the beat bumps, why wouldnt I use it? Thats my guess is thats whats happening here.
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<strong>If this album is a hit, will Americans finally have to get over our aversion to dance music? Will we claim it? Do you see that happening?</strong>
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I do think its already happening.
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When young people think about new music, I think they imagine electronic music. Maybe they dont imagine a nine-minute deep house song. But if it has a house speed, a good pop hook, and it fits into their streaming playlist, or it backs their TikTok video in a fun way, I think theyre very open to it.
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So yeah, I do think its happening. In terms of whether thats a good thing or not, I dont know because its like once something enters that pop realm, it kind of ceases to be what it was before. And thats not good or bad.
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That doesnt mean it cant grow and change. But when it gets sort of crammed into this neat pop music box where it needs to be three minutes, it needs to have someone singing on it, and it needs to have a catchy hook or it needs to have a guest rapper delivering a special verse, then it ceases to be house music — at least house music as Ive known.
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Thats just how culture works.
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<strong>But also, I kinda feel like were jumping the gun. We dont even know what Beys album is going to sound like, aside from “Break My Soul.” Its a little presumptuous not only to say shes gonna save or revitalize dance and house music when we havent heard the entire thing.</strong>
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Its funny that “Break My Soul” generated so much talk about house music because it sampled “Show Me Love” — a song that peoples grandmas know. That song is a crossover big hit thats been ubiquitous for decades. Its not like she was digging deep into house music to find it.
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<strong>I think Charlie XCX sampled “Show Me Love” in “Used to Know Me.”</strong>
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Yeah, its one of the most sampled and referenced songs of the past 30 years. And the funny part too is that the other sample on the track is Big Freedia, who is this <a href="https://www.rollingstone.com/feature/20-essential-new-orleans-bounce-songs-705706/">New Orleans bounce</a> artist — bounce is sort like a hip-hop variant out of New Orleans, and Big Freedia is also a queer artist. And when “Break My Soul” came out and all of the press was like, “Beyoncé is revitalizing house music,” but bounce music is arguably just as big a part of that song and I didnt see anything about how Beyoncé was changing bounce music.
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Its too soon to tell if this is going to be like some huge shift. But things have been trending in this direction as music gets more electronic. Its still so early its hard to know if this house music conversation is gonna last one more week, or three months or a year.
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But I also think as queer and female artists continue to have a larger voice and set the pop culture agenda, theyre more amenable to making dance music. It doesnt mean that dance music isnt serious or that these artists arent serious. But “serious” doesnt have to mean what it did 20 years ago. Serious doesnt have to mean an angry guy with a guitar anymore.
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<strong>Joy and importance dont have to be mutually exclusive.</strong>
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I think attitudes about that have really shifted a lot in the last 10 to 15 years. So if that means that therell be more people dancing, thats possible, but at the same time, is it going to shift how people consume music? People are still going to be listening to Spotify and playlists, and theyre going to want the songs to be over in three and a half minutes, and theyre gonna want hummable hooks that stick in their head.
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That dynamic is not changing, but what constitutes pop music, and what constitutes “important” music — that is what seems to be changing.
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<li><strong>Living with roommates doesnt have to suck</strong> -
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Heres how to survive — and thrive — while sharing a home with others.
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Rents are rising. Even outside of the costliest American urban centers like New York and San Francisco, it can be difficult to find an affordable deal on an apartment. Unfortunately, there arent many signs to suggest things are going to get much easier anytime soon — in May, the <a href="https://www.npr.org/2022/06/09/1103919413/rents-across-u-s-rise-above-2-000-a-month-for-the-first-time-ever">median monthly rent</a> in the US was $2,002, up by nearly 15 percent from the same time last year. This is also the first time the median rent has crossed $2,000 nationwide — a milestone <a href="https://www.cnn.com/2022/05/19/homes/us-rents-april/index.html">some experts</a> didnt anticipate until August of this year.
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For many, living with other people — whether thats their parents or a group of strangers they found on a Facebook group for local renters — has become one of the only viable options to find affordable housing. <a href="https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2018/01/31/more-adults-now-share-their-living-space-driven-in-part-by-parents-living-with-their-adult-children/">Now more than ever</a>, people are living in “doubled-up” households, meaning theyre sharing a home with someone they arent in a romantic relationship with. While doubling up is by far most common among 20-somethings, the percentage of older adults doing so has risen steadily <a href="https://www.zillow.com/research/rising-rents-more-roommates-17618/">for all age groups</a> since 2005, though this data also includes adults living with family.
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Despite its prevalence, living with roommates gets a bad rap. Youve probably heard about the roommate from hell: somebody who blasts loud music late at night or turns every minor conflict into a dramatic confrontation. Its a stale trope that media frequently inundates us with, from <a href="https://www.theguardian.com/tv-and-radio/2022/mar/03/worst-roommate-ever-this-might-officially-be-the-worst-true-show-ever">television series</a> to <a href="https://www.buzzfeed.com/ravenishak/roommates-from-hell">BuzzFeed articles</a>. Even when its not the roommate from hell, living with roommates is often portrayed as a <a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2022/06/01/magazine/new-york-roommates.html">last resort</a> — a sacrifice to save money or gain a bit of independence from our family.
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When I was growing up, my father often regaled me and my family with stories from when he lived alone in an apartment during the 1980s. As I neared financial independence from my parents, these anecdotes of urban life seemed like lore from a bygone era. My dads stories were surely tinged with nostalgia, but they still felt fairly detached from my reality — it seemed extremely unlikely that Id ever afford the kind of solo living my dad did in his mid-20s.
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So far, that predictions proven correct. But it hasnt been nearly as bad as all those roommate-from-hell stories make it seem. In fact, its been really nice. Having somebody else around the apartment to gossip or do chores with has made the place feel livelier and more homey, particularly when I moved to a <a href="https://www.vox.com/even-better/23171085/moving-single-dating-make-new-friends-volunteer">completely new city</a> for the first time.
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Humans are social animals. While living with strangers might not be ideal, its arguably a more natural arrangement than living alone in a tiny studio. <a href="https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0924977X21008889#!">Research suggests</a> that during the early days of the Covid-19 pandemic, people who lived with others fared better than those who lived alone, mental health-wise. Sharing a home has strong potential to mitigate the <a href="https://www.vox.com/2020/5/11/21245087/america-loneliness-epidemic-coronavirus-pandemic-together">rising levels of loneliness</a> and combat the atomization of modern life. If youre as skeptical of the roommate relationship as I once was, try to have an open mind: Its probably better than youre expecting.
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Finding the right person (or people!)
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For many people, their first time living with roommates is when they enter college. The summer before college, I picked up a copy of advice columnist Harlan Cohens <a href="https://www.indiebound.org/book/9781492645962"><em>The Naked Roommate: And 107 Other Issues You Might Run Into in College</em></a><em> </em>to prepare myself for dorm living. Six years after first reading his book, I spoke with Cohen over Zoom to learn about navigating life with roommates, post-college.
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While colleges often have <a href="https://www.theatlantic.com/education/archive/2019/08/colleges-dont-want-freshmen-choosing-their-roommates/596803/">methodical roommate-matchmaking practices</a> to take the weight of finding a roommate off students shoulders, life after college isnt so easy. You may feel inclined to live with a close friend to simplify the search process, but Cohens a bit leery of this.
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Getting along with somebody in your social circle doesnt necessarily mean that the dynamic will be the same while living together. Cohen adds that friends may take advantage of their preexisting relationship, putting in less effort to get along with each other as roommates.
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“Friendships a bonus — itd be great to be friends and we may like to be friends, but its okay if were not,” he says.
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It may be better to find somebody you dont know that well — a friend of a friend or even a stranger. Obviously, youll want to vet any roommates-to-be to ensure theyre a good match. Asking prospective roommates the right questions is a key preventive measure for common conflicts like a messy common area or clashing sleep schedules. Someones answers to questions like “What time do you usually go to bed?” and “What are some problems youve had with past roommates?” can shed light on your compatibility.
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Online roommate-matching services like <a href="https://www.roommates.com/">Roommates</a> or <a href="https://www.roomiematch.com/">RoomieMatch</a> can filter out some of the basics, but you should find out more information about your roommate through an honest and forthright conversation with them before you agree to move in together. Identify whats critical to you in your living space; knowing a potential roommates perspectives on cleanliness, quiet time, and other boundaries is key to an understanding roommate relationship.
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Most importantly, go into the roommate search with a positive attitude. <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7967625/">Researchers have found</a> that people with negative attitudes about living with others may experience increased dysfunction when living with roommates, while those with a positive attitude going in may experience improved mental health.
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“I find that the people who are most concerned about living with a roommate from hell are often the most difficult people to live with,” Cohen says. “Theyre so worried and have so much fear and anxiety coming into their relationship that it creates challenges when living together.”
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Finding the right space
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As the old saying goes, “a house does not a home make.” It turns out that any old two-bedroom apartment doesnt necessarily, either.
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Finding the right place is difficult, but its an important part of making sure you and your roommates feel comfortable together. After all, you dont want resentment to build up because you and your roommate rushed to sign a lease on a unit that hardly has any closet space.
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Moreover, some roommates may require specific accessibility accommodations that youll have to take into account during the housing search. Your <a href="https://www.vox.com/23069449/emotional-spending-personal-finance">individual budgets</a> will also inevitably factor into the search, and youll want to split the rent fairly according to factors like monthly income and the relative size of your private spaces (i.e., bedrooms and bathrooms).
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Its helpful to come up with a list of priorities — things like location, size, specific amenities, etc. — that you and your roommates can rank together in order of importance. Not only will this give you a starting point in what to look for as you search for housing, but this will also be a useful exercise in the art of compromise.
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If youre open to sacrificing a little privacy and living with a slightly larger group of people, co-living spaces may be worth considering. As Scott Corfe <a href="https://www.smf.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2019/02/Co-Living.pdf">defines them</a>, co-living spaces like <a href="https://www.thecollective.com/">The Collective</a> or the now-defunct <a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2019/10/13/nyregion/welive-nyc-wework.html">WeLive</a> are “a system of housing in which individuals have access to a range of shared, communal facilities,” such as gyms, co-working spaces, and even movie lounges.
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Corfe, the research director at the Social Market Foundation, tells me that co-living developments could be a creative solution to the affordable housing crisis, in spite of their flaws. By uniting a community under one (fairly affordable) roof, he says these spaces intuitively have the potential to reduce loneliness among their inhabitants.
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“This is clearly not the silver bullet solution with all the issues in the housing market,” he says, adding that its a much-needed innovation.
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Corfe admits that co-living isnt for everyone, but you can still create community in an apartment setting. Living with a roommate or two is an interesting way to gain a deeper understanding of how other people navigate the world. While you dont necessarily have to be best friends, putting in extra effort to be friendly and spend time together will help you feel at home.
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Finding the right rules
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While gearing up to live in a three-person dorm room for my freshman year of college, I was a bit nervous. Id heard so many bad stories that the roommate from hell seemed inevitable.
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Of course, there were some kinks the three of us had to work out — like our clashing sleep schedules, for instance — but all in all, it was a fairly pleasant experience.
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Part of what made living together so easy was the fact that our halls resident adviser mediated a brief rule-setting conversation at the beginning of our first quarter. Setting boundaries early on is crucial, Cohen says, even if you dont have an RA to nag you into setting these rules like I did.
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In a <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@helpmeharlan/video/7110625054769220910">TikTok</a> he posted a few weeks before our meeting, Cohen proposed a rule that he calls the “Uncomfortable Rule” — a sort of golden rule that aims to nip inter-roommate conflicts in the bud. “The Uncomfortable Rule says that if either of us is uncomfortable with something that is happening, we need to share it within 24 to 48 hours, or we wont share it,” Cohen tells me. “You cant hold someone responsible for something you arent sharing.”
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In addition to Cohens Uncomfortable Rule, try discussing responsibilities like household chores and whats acceptable when it comes to alcohol consumption or overnight guests. When conflicts do arise — and they likely will — you and your roommates can come back to this conversation to discuss the best course of action.
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Devising these rules will allow you and your roommates to, once again, practice negotiation and compromise — chances are, you wont agree on everything, and thats perfectly fine. By working to find a middle ground, youre honing skills that will benefit you in other interpersonal relationships, like cohabitating with a romantic partner.
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These rules create a framework for a fairly unique relationship that could blossom into friendship, something thats particularly valuable in a society where people often begin losing friends after <a href="https://www.vox.com/2016/7/12/12148938/friendship-adult-challenges-solutions">their third decade of life</a>. From gaining opportunities to <a href="https://www.nxtbook.com/nxtbooks/acuho/journal_vol41no2/index.php#/p/104">learning more about another culture</a> to trying new food, Cohen says the perks of living with a roommate are innumerable.
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“With a roommate, you have someone who you can spend time with — if its someone who enjoys spending time with you, you can gain a friend,” Cohen says. “And if its someone you dont enjoy spending time with, you can benefit from figuring out how to get comfortable with an uncomfortable situation.”
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<em>Andrew Warner is a New York City-based reporter covering education and culture.</em>
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<h1 data-aos="fade-right" id="from-the-hindu-sports">From The Hindu: Sports</h1>
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<li data-aos="fade-left" data-aos-anchor-placement="bottom-bottom"><p data-aos="fade-left" data-aos-anchor-placement="bottom-bottom"><strong>WAGatha Christie | Coleen Rooney victorious over Rebekah Vardy in football spouses court battle</strong> - In a legal dispute between two football spouses that captivated Britain, Judge Karen Steyn cleared Coleen Rooney of libeling Rebekah Vardy when she alleged that Vardy had leaked her private social media posts to the tabloid press</p></li>
<li data-aos="fade-left" data-aos-anchor-placement="bottom-bottom"><p data-aos="fade-left" data-aos-anchor-placement="bottom-bottom"><strong>VFI gets FIVB recognition</strong> -</p></li>
<li data-aos="fade-left" data-aos-anchor-placement="bottom-bottom"><p data-aos="fade-left" data-aos-anchor-placement="bottom-bottom"><strong>Commonwealth Games 2022 | Mirabai Chanu leads Indian challenge in weightlifting</strong> - Along with Mirabai, Sanket Sargar and Gururaja will be keen to contribute to countrys medals tally.</p></li>
<li data-aos="fade-left" data-aos-anchor-placement="bottom-bottom"><p data-aos="fade-left" data-aos-anchor-placement="bottom-bottom"><strong>Haaland and Nunez, Man City and Liverpool set for Community Shield showdown</strong> - Manchester City striker Erling Haaland will go head to head with Liverpool forward Darwin Nunez as the Premier League title rivals unveil their expensive new recruits in the Community Shield</p></li>
<li data-aos="fade-left" data-aos-anchor-placement="bottom-bottom"><p data-aos="fade-left" data-aos-anchor-placement="bottom-bottom"><strong>England and Germany set for historic Euro 2022 final</strong> - When host nation England takes on Germany in the European Championship final on Sunday, Wembley stadium is expected to have a tournament-record crowd of nearly 90,000</p></li>
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<h1 data-aos="fade-right" id="from-the-hindu-national-news">From The Hindu: National News</h1>
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<li data-aos="fade-left" data-aos-anchor-placement="bottom-bottom"><p data-aos="fade-left" data-aos-anchor-placement="bottom-bottom"><strong>Andhra Pradesh: Naidu alleges illegal granite mining on Dravidian University land</strong> - In letter to Governor, he says the activity has also led to death of several birds, particularly peacock</p></li>
<li data-aos="fade-left" data-aos-anchor-placement="bottom-bottom"><p data-aos="fade-left" data-aos-anchor-placement="bottom-bottom"><strong>Andhra Pradesh: Over ₹32,000 crore spent on Kapu welfare, says Jagan</strong> - ₹508 crore deposited into the accounts of women under YSR Kapu Nestham</p></li>
<li data-aos="fade-left" data-aos-anchor-placement="bottom-bottom"><p data-aos="fade-left" data-aos-anchor-placement="bottom-bottom"><strong>Revenue crunch, staff shortage hit Mysuru KSRTCs expansion plans</strong> - The urban and rural divisions of the State Transport Corporation were merged post-pandemic but revenue is yet to reach pre-COVID-19 level despite lifting of all curbs</p></li>
<li data-aos="fade-left" data-aos-anchor-placement="bottom-bottom"><p data-aos="fade-left" data-aos-anchor-placement="bottom-bottom"><strong>Why Karnataka CM, Ministers visit families of only BJP workers affected by violence, what about other victims: Siddaramaiah</strong> - Leader of Opposition Siddaramaiah questions Karnataka Chief Ministers failure to visit the houses of murder victims belonging to Muslim community.</p></li>
<li data-aos="fade-left" data-aos-anchor-placement="bottom-bottom"><p data-aos="fade-left" data-aos-anchor-placement="bottom-bottom"><strong>₹36.47 lakh in hawala money seized</strong> -</p></li>
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<h1 data-aos="fade-right" id="from-bbc-europe">From BBC: Europe</h1>
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<li data-aos="fade-left" data-aos-anchor-placement="bottom-bottom"><p data-aos="fade-left" data-aos-anchor-placement="bottom-bottom"><strong>Ukraine war: Russia says 40 Ukrainian prisoners killed in blast</strong> - The Ukrainian and Russian militaries accuse each other of shelling a prison camp in Donetsk.</p></li>
<li data-aos="fade-left" data-aos-anchor-placement="bottom-bottom"><p data-aos="fade-left" data-aos-anchor-placement="bottom-bottom"><strong>Hopes for first grain ship to leave Ukraine after Russia deal</strong> - The ship could go on Friday if “crucial” details are agreed, says the UN aid chief.</p></li>
<li data-aos="fade-left" data-aos-anchor-placement="bottom-bottom"><p data-aos="fade-left" data-aos-anchor-placement="bottom-bottom"><strong>Ukraines shadow army resisting Russian occupation</strong> - Sarah Rainsford meets the underground partisans resisting Russian occupation in southern Ukraine.</p></li>
<li data-aos="fade-left" data-aos-anchor-placement="bottom-bottom"><p data-aos="fade-left" data-aos-anchor-placement="bottom-bottom"><strong>Spanish beach body campaign used my image without asking - model</strong> - British model Nyome says she had “no idea” a Spanish body positivity campaign had used her photo.</p></li>
<li data-aos="fade-left" data-aos-anchor-placement="bottom-bottom"><p data-aos="fade-left" data-aos-anchor-placement="bottom-bottom"><strong>Why Dutch farmers are protesting over emissions cuts</strong> - Farmers say proposals to cut livestock and reduce intensive farming unfairly target their industry.</p></li>
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<h1 data-aos="fade-right" id="from-ars-technica">From Ars Technica</h1>
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<li><p data-aos="fade-left" data-aos-anchor-placement="bottom-bottom"><strong>NASA revises Mars sample return plan to use helicopters</strong> - The experience with the Ingenuity helicopter has changed the equation. - <a href="https://arstechnica.com/?p=1870178">link</a></p></li>
<li><p data-aos="fade-left" data-aos-anchor-placement="bottom-bottom"><strong>Gulf Coast tests confirm deadly tropical soil bacterium now endemic to US</strong> - The bacterium causes melioidosis, which is hard to diagnose and resistant to some drugs. - <a href="https://arstechnica.com/?p=1870109">link</a></p></li>
<li><p data-aos="fade-left" data-aos-anchor-placement="bottom-bottom"><strong>Apple reports only slight growth in Q3 2022 earnings report</strong> - Services and iPhone grew a bit, but the Mac and others lost ground. - <a href="https://arstechnica.com/?p=1870155">link</a></p></li>
<li><p data-aos="fade-left" data-aos-anchor-placement="bottom-bottom"><strong>Pixel 6a gift card deal effectively takes $50 off Googles new phone</strong> - Typically $449, phone releases today; gift card deal available at multiple retailers. - <a href="https://arstechnica.com/?p=1870044">link</a></p></li>
<li><p data-aos="fade-left" data-aos-anchor-placement="bottom-bottom"><strong>Whats inside the USs first big climate bill?</strong> - Tax credits, grants, and more to boost renewable and clean technology. - <a href="https://arstechnica.com/?p=1870124">link</a></p></li>
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<li><strong>Tea is an evil substance. It is much more dangerous than beer.</strong> - <!-- SC_OFF -->
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I discovered this last night. I drank 15 beers up until 3 am in the pub while my wife was just at home drinking tea.
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You should have seen how mad and violent she was when I got home. She threw the chair at me and kept screaming at the top of her lungs. On the other hand, I was quiet and peaceful and silently made my way to bed. But she kept cursing and shouting through the night and well into the next morning.
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Please friends, if you cant handle your tea, you should not be drinking it. Please avoid drinking tea.
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So he buys a used Corvette and heads south for warmer weather. About five hundred miles into the trip the Corvette starts to overheat.
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He stops in a small town and finds a mechanic to get the issue fixed. The mechanic says he is not going to be able to look at the car for an hour, so the Penguin asks him if there is any place to eat while he waits. The mechanic says there is a great fish and chips right around the corner.
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So, the penguin leaves and gets a nice lunch. An hour has passed and he heads back to the repair shop. The mechanic has the car on a lift, so the penguin asks the mechanic if he found the issue.
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The mechanic says “It looks like you blew a seal.” The penguin wipes the side of his mouth and says “No, thats just tartar sauce.”
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I said, “That was easy then. What can I get you fellas?”
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And ordered 10 shots of vodka at the bar and started doing shot after shot until I got 6 in and the bartender said Jeez buddy, are you having problems? to which I replied “You wouldnt want what I got.”. He asked what I had and I said
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“About 35 cents”
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He kicked me out promptly afterwards
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So I was walking down the sidewalk kinda buzzed and stumbled into two priests. They apologized and I replied “Imje -hiccup- Jesus Christ”. They looked at each other and said “no no son you just seem a little drunk” to which I replied “N-no Im Jeeesus Christ. I can prooove it! Follow -hiccup- meee” (while holding onto one of their shoulders for support). They obliged and started to follow me. So I walked back into the bar and bartender said:
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<strong><em>Jesus Christ, not you again!</em></strong>
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Having 12 close friends after 30!
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