++Text a friend, write a thank-you note, compliment a stranger â people appreciate these gestures. +
++Think about the last time someone showed you a small token of appreciation. Perhaps a stranger gave you a compliment, or maybe you got a check-in text from a friend, or received a particularly heartfelt thank-you note from a mentee. Chances are, that tiny act brightened your day. After all, thereâs a delight in knowing you were on someoneâs mind for even a brief moment. +
++When the roles are reversed, though, you might often psych yourself out of performing these simple bids, convincing yourself you must initiate a follow-up after that initial text or that stranger will rebuff your kind remark. +
++âI think people felt like there was an obligation,â says Gillian Sandstrom, a senior lecturer in the psychology of kindness at the University of Sussex, who is currently studying peopleâs reluctance to reach out to friends with whom theyâd lost touch. âThere is no commitment. I can just have a one-off thing, walk away. Thereâs something really beautiful about that.â +
++Research suggests, across multiple studies, that people have overwhelmingly similar impulses to not do the nice thing: They underestimate how much other people value the reach-out, the random act of kindness. These seemingly minor deeds are appreciated, though. Turning down the naysaying voice in your head allows for more opportunities to show warmth to those around you. +
++We all underestimate how much others appreciate us +
++Since humans lack the ability to read minds, we simply guess at what other people think of us. These hypotheses are informed by how people perceive themselves, and not by real-world feedback and criticism from those theyâve actually interacted with. These self-perceptions are often marred by negativity; when recalling past social interactions, people worried their jokes were subpar or that their conversation partner found them uncool. âWe assume other people are thinking what weâre thinking,â Sandstrom says. +
++Psychologist and friendship expert Marisa Franco credits these pessimistic assumptions to a concept called the negativity bias, wherein people remember negative events and feelings more acutely than positive ones. As a result, people tend to avoid socially risky behaviors â like telling a stranger on the subway you like their shoes â in order to avoid potential awkwardness. âAcross the board,â says Franco, who is also the author of Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make â and Keep â Friends, âin pretty much every act of connection, we tend to underestimate how much people will be receptive to our overtures in connection.â Of course, there will be instances where a stranger, in particular, will not be amenable to your overtures (this isnât permission to harass people on the street), but your intention should be to brighten someoneâs day without worrying what they think about you. +
++The persistent underestimation of how much others enjoy our company is known as the liking gap, dubbed by Sandstrom and her colleagues in a 2018 paper. Through both short conversations and long ones, with both strangers and acquaintances, study participants consistently misjudged how much their conversation partners liked them. (Participants took surveys after each chat and reported that they liked their conversation partner much more than they perceived their conversation partner to have liked them.) +
++This mismatch of appreciation extends to other domains, such as writing thank-you notes, sending text messages, and gifting a cup of hot chocolate. âBeing kind to other people, doing nice things for others â those are the activities that tend to improve our well-being,â says Amit Kumar, assistant professor of marketing and psychology at the University of Texas at Austin. âFolks have lots of opportunities for acting in these other-oriented ways that they donât take advantage of. I think the interesting question then becomes, well, why donât people act in ways that are likely to make them feel better?â +
++Why we donât do nice things for others +
++If small, kind gestures have a positive impact on the receiverâs day, why are people so hesitant to do them? According to Kumar, who has studied the positive impact of acts of kindness and gratitude letters, we donât often recognize the power of these benevolent acts on others. Instead of focusing on the warm intention (literally and figuratively) associated with buying a stranger a cup of coffee, we fixate on the value of what weâre presenting. âWhen youâre doing something for someone else, youâre thinking about the thing that youâre giving and what its value is,â Kumar says. Recipients, on the other hand, are âthinking about the warmth associated with the fact that it was given to them by another person out of kindness.â +
++Surprise also generates appreciation from recipients, says Peggy Liu, the Ben L. Fryrear Chair in Marketing and an associate professor of business administration at the University of Pittsburgh Katz Graduate School of Business. In her recent studies demonstrating the power of a brief check-in text to friends, Liu found that when recipients werenât expecting to hear from the initiator â maybe it had been a few months since they last spoke â they appreciated that someone thought about them enough to reach out. While Liu did not identify what prevented would-be initiators from sending the text, she suspects thoughts of worry held them back: Is my friend going to think itâs strange that I just reached out? Does what I wrote to them sound okay? +
++There is also an inherent anxiety that something as simple as a text must come with strings attached: a phone call, a coffee date. In Sandstromâs as-of-yet unpublished study about reconnecting with friends, participants often didnât reach out because they lacked the time to commit to the relationship beyond the initial message. During a time when so many are stretched thin, just the small act itself is enough. âA brief text,â Liu says, âdoesnât create that much obligation in the other person and allows the other person to decide when and how they want to respond.â +
++That nagging negativity bias creates doubt. There will inevitably be times when our attempts at conversations with strangers fall flat â and those memories will prevail over those of successful acts of kindness. Still, pursuing these bids with regularity helps break the assumption that they wonât be appreciated. With each positive interaction, anxiety is replaced by joy. +
++In other words, donât fixate on picking out the best flowers for your partner or fear a distant friend will criticize your grammar in a text message. The gesture itself is more consequential than the content â because itâs always worth it to do the nice thing rather than to avoid doing it out of fear of rejection or awkwardness. In his studies, not only did the recipients feel appreciated, but the do-gooders reported feeling happy, too, Kumar says. +
++Being vulnerable yourself goes a long way +
++To avoid talking ourselves out of performing friendly exploits, itâs helpful to catch ourselves in the act of second-guessing and remind ourselves how lovely it felt when we were on the receiving end of, say, a check-in text, Liu says. No one criticizes a kind note they werenât expecting. +
++These small gestures can be just that: a quick chat, a thinking-of-you message, gifting unused public transit fare to a stranger. âIâm a working mom,â Liu says. âIt can be hard to actually have a more lengthy get-together. So I think thatâs partly why these brief reach outs are so appreciated.â +
++The consequence of ignoring our impulse to reach out is missed opportunities for social connection. Instead, says Franco, assume people like you. âWhen people are told that theyâre going into a group and [will] be accepted, they become warmer, friendlier, and more open,â she says. âWhereas people that have rejection sensitivity, who tend to assume theyâll be rejected, they tend to become cold and withdrawn, thus rejecting other people and getting rejected back.â +
++Opt for a touch of optimism, put yourself out there, and, Franco says, consider potential rejection as the price worth paying for meaningful interactions. +
++Contradictory court orders put the abortion drug mifepristone in âuncharted territory.â +
++Federal judges in Texas and Washington handed down two opposing rulings on the abortion pill mifepristone on Friday, jeopardizing access to the drug and putting the US Food and Drug Administration in an impossible situation. +
++Matthew Kacsmaryk, a conservative federal district court judge in Texas, issued a long-awaited ruling Friday evening calling for the FDA to stay its approval of mifepristone, which has been deemed safe and legal for 23 years, while Thomas Rice, a federal court judge in Washington state, swiftly issued a directly contradictory decision. +
+ ++Kacsmarykâs order to halt mifepristoneâs approval was widely expected given his conservative views and background in the Christian right, and hinges on the idea that medication abortion is not safe. That claim, though, is disputed by decades of evidence to the contrary, and in the Washington state order enjoining the FDA from making changes to mifepristoneâs availability in the 17 states and Washington, DC, Rice also argued that it isnât the role of a court to determine a drugâs safety. +
++As of now, medication abortion â most frequently a two-drug regimen consisting of mifepristone and misoprostol â remains legal in the US, and both drugs, mifepristone and misoprostol, are approved by the FDA. Kacsmarykâs order would have invalidated mifepristoneâs approval after a seven-day stay of the order to allow for potential emergency relief. But Riceâs ruling further complicates Kacsmarykâs, since the FDA would be unable to fully comply with both orders at once. +
++âThere is now directly conflicting federal court decisions on what the status of mifepristone is,â Rachel RebouchĂ©, dean of Temple Universityâs Beasley School of Law told Vox in an interview. âSo nothing changes for the next week, and weâll see litigation start to move as the FDA and DOJ ask the Fifth Circuit and Supreme Court to clarify.â +
+ ++Not only does the Texas ruling endanger access to medication abortion, it also calls into question the ability of the FDA and other federal agencies to follow through with their mandates, according to several experts. Kacsmarykâs ruling cites dubious claims about mifepristoneâs supposed dangers, and experts told Vox that the fact that a court has now decided it can arbitrate scientific fact better than medical experts is unprecedented and potentially quite dangerous. +
++Contrary to Kacsmarykâs order, mifepristone is extremely safe, and along with misoprostol is widely used to end abortions within the first trimester. As Voxâs Rachel Cohen explains: +
++++Medication abortion â referring to the combination of both mifepristone and misoprostol â accounts for more than half of all abortions in the US, and is used typically within the first 10 to 12 weeks of a pregnancy. Itâs become the most common method for ending pregnancies in the United States, partly due to its safety record, its lower cost, diminished access to in-person care, and greater opportunities for privacy. +
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+Medication abortion is just the latest battleground in reproductive rights after the Supreme Court overturned Roe v. Wade last summer, voiding the constitutional right to an abortion. Kacsmarykâs case has been the highest-profile attacks on mifepristone, itâs not the only one; in March, Wyomingâs governor signed a bill banning medication abortion effective July 1, though that law is being challenged in court. +
++Fridayâs contradictory rulings are by no means the last word on medication abortion; both the Justice Department and Danco Laboratories, which manufactures mifepristone under the name Mifeprex, have filed appeals to the Fifth Circuit Court, and itâs likely the issue will end up before the Supreme Court. However, given the recent track record of both the Fifth Circuit and the Supreme Court on abortion issues, the outcome for medication abortion is far from clear. +
++For its part, the FDA made a statement to the Washington Post defending mifepristone and its approval for the market. âFDA stands behind its determination that mifepristone is safe and effective under its approved conditions of use for medical termination of early pregnancy, and believes patients should have access to FDA-approved medications that FDA has determined to be safe and effective for their intended uses,â an agency spokesperson said. +
++The legal labyrinth around mifepristone, explained +
++The decisions came down rapid-fire Friday evening; Riceâs order became public just after Kacsmarykâs, fueling confusion over the future of the drug. Kacsmarykâs 67-page order rules on the idea that the FDA didnât properly study the effects of medication abortion and fast-tracked its approval, siding with the plaintiffs â four anti-abortion medical groups and four anti-abortion doctors. +
++According to Greer Donley, an associate professor of law at the University of Pittsburghâs center for bioethics and health law, âif the Texas order goes into effect in seven days â if thereâs no appeal that changes that â the drug will become unapproved. Thereâs nothing for the FDA to do. The order was specifically written to avoid any action on the FDAâs part, the drug just becomes unapproved in seven days.â +
++That outcome is complicated by the injunction from a Washington state federal court: Riceâs decision orders that the FDA maintain the status quo for mifepristone by not blocking its availability. While Kacsmarykâs order would apply nationally, Riceâs only applies to DC and the 17 states named as plaintiffs. +
++Itâs unlikely, however, that the limited scope of the Washington state ruling clears the way for Kacysmarykâs injunction in any meaningful way. According to Steve Vladeck, the Charles Alan Wright Chair in Federal Courts at the University of Texas, itâs âa distinction without a difference given what it orders the FDA to not do.â +
++âSo there would be no way for the FDA to comply with both if Kacsmarykâs ruling ever goes into effect,â Vladeck tweeted Friday evening. âHence, #SCOTUS.â +
+++The WA ruling is not nationwide (although I think thatâs a distinction without a difference given what it orders the FDA to not do), but Kacsmarykâs would be. So there would be no way for the FDA to comply with both if Kacsmarykâs ruling ever goes into effect. Hence, #SCOTUS. +
+â Steve Vladeck (@steve_vladeck) April 7, 2023 +
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