++Actually useful ways to help children with homework, bullying, and mental health. +
++In early 2020, around the onset of Covid-19 lockdowns, Jessica Mungekar noticed her seventh grade honor student, Layla, retreat. âI knew that she felt really uncomfortable and she wanted to fall into the background,â Mungekar says. âShe didnât want to be noticed and I didnât quite understand it.â +
++Meanwhile, Layla was keeping the source of her pain secret from her mother: She was being bullied and was struggling with her identity as a biracial teen in a predominantly white town. Layla feared if she told her mom about the extent of the bullying, Jessica would have called the school, making the problem even worse. +
++Things came to a head the summer before Laylaâs first year of high school when she shared with her mom details of a traumatic event. Layla urged her mother not to make decisions on her behalf in the aftermath. Instead, Jessica went into what she calls âmama bear modeâ and made demands of her daughter: Cut off contact with these friends, join these extracurricular activities, you are only allowed out of the house during these hours. Layla felt like her autonomy was being taken away. +
++Over the course of a few months, mother and daughter worked to repair their relationship and communication. Now, Jessica says she is sure to listen to Layla instead of immediately offering advice, validates her daughterâs feelings, and gives her freedom to express herself. For her part, Layla confides in her mother all the time, even about her dating life. Her friends often seek out Jessica for counsel, too. âSheâs become a safe place where people go to get advice,â Layla, now 16, says. âSheâs joyous and doesnât pass judgment.â +
++Students are faced with a daily barrage of potential stressors: a demanding course load, tricky social dynamics, managing both their time and emotions. In a four-year study designed to estimate the prevalence of mental disorders in kindergarteners through 12th graders, findings showed one in six students exhibited enough symptoms to meet the criteria for one or more childhood mental disorders, such as anxiety disorders and attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder. According to a 2019 Pew Research Center report, 61 percent of teens said they felt a lot of pressure to get good grades. About 22 percent of 12- to 18-year-old students reported being bullied during the school year in 2019, per a National Center for Education Statistics survey. None of these statistics takes into account the toll of the pandemic, which set students back academically and had negative effects on their mental health. +
++Once kids leave the house, parents and other adults in their lives have little influence on their studentsâ school days. Unable to witness or guide children through the difficulties in and out of the classroom, parents often get piecemeal or incomplete views of how their kids spent the last hours, especially if the child is young and canât adequately verbalize their struggles or frustrations. Signs that a student may be experiencing hardship at school include increased irritability, difficulty sleeping or lack of sleep, and changes in appetite, says Jessica Kendorski, the chair of the school psychology department and professor at the Philadelphia College of Osteopathic Medicine. They may also say they feel sick in order to stay home, when in reality they may be stressed or anxious about school, Kendorski says. +
++Another indicator of a struggling child includes extreme people-pleasing, says Meredith Draughn, the school counselor at B. Everett Jordan Elementary School in Graham, NC, and the 2023 American School Counselor Association Counselor of the Year. High school students may also exhibit a âfreezeâ response, Draughn says. âItâs like well, that kid just doesnât care, right? That kidâs super apathetic,â she says. âWhat we find when we dig into it more is theyâre so overwhelmed by everything thatâs happening that they just choose to do nothing because they donât know how to address it.â +
++What, then, is the right way to support the students in your life? The tactics will vary based on the age of your child and the issues theyâre facing. Regardless of your approach, experts say to always keep your kids in the loop of any decisions youâre making about their emotional and academic success. +
++Encourage growth mindset tactics for academic achievement +
++From homework to challenging classes, students experience a number of academic hurdles. Sometimes, they may fail a test or drop the ball on a project. While some students may criticize themselves (âIâm not smart enoughâ) or claim the material was too difficult, parents should promote a growth mindset: the ability to learn from setbacks, implement new processes, and improve. âYou want to praise the effort and the strategies that they used,â Kendorski says. âIf they fail something, you want to talk through âWhy did you fail this? Letâs talk about what you can do to be successful next time.ââ +
++A fixed mindset is one where people believe their skills are set in stone and they have no possibility of improving. When students in his classroom share fixed mindset sentiments like âI canât do this,â elementary school teacher Josh Monroe is quick to amend the statement: âYou canât do this yet.â The power of yet helps students âunderstand that you donât have to know it all right now â and itâs important that you donât, thatâs how you grow,â he says. +
++While itâs crucial to encourage a growth mindset with students who use negative self-talk, like âIâll never learn thisâ or âIâm not good enough,â a fixed mindset can also backfire if you constantly tell a student âYouâre so smart,â Kendorski says. âWhen things start to get really difficult, you might find kids that donât want to take chances,â she says, âbecause they think that if I fail, Iâm going to lose that âIâm so smartâ title.â Instead, she says, focus on accomplishments based on effort and strategies: âIâm really proud of you for organizing a study group with your friends.â +
++To help ensure your kids get their homework done and prepare for tests, Kendorski encourages a routine: dedicating a time and a place for schoolwork. If your student retains information more effectively if they study for a little bit each day instead of cramming, offer that as an option. +
++When the kid in your life asks for help with homework and youâre a little rusty on, say, algebra, donât feel ashamed to admit you donât know how to solve the problem, Draughn says. Monroe recommends the online educational tool Khan Academy, which features videos that guide both parents and students through all levels of educational concepts and lessons. For additional academic resources, reach out to your studentâs teacher who will know about after-school tutoring sessions or extra guidance, Draughn says. âGoing to teachers early and often, when help is needed, is the most crucial part of it,â she says, âbecause there are those programs, but they do fill up pretty quickly.â +
++Empower students to navigate difficult social situations with confidence +
++School can be a social minefield, with kids learning how to independently interact with peers and regulate their emotions. If your child shares that theyâre being picked on or ostracized in school, Draughn suggests that you first validate their experience and never downplay their emotions. Ask them what level of support they want: Do they think it would be helpful to talk to a school counselor or a teacher? Or do they prefer you to reach out to the teacher directly? In Layla Mungekarâs experience, she would have opted for her mother to not interfere with her social life. âLetting them lead the way on that is important,â Draughn says. âThey may say, I feel like I have the tools to handle this â and thatâs great. Then you check in. But doing nothing and just not mentioning it again is not going to help anything.â +
++You might also start counseling your kid on self-advocacy and assertiveness at home, too, Draughn says, helping them identify moments where they should speak out against bad behavior and pointing out trustworthy adults to whom they can report issues, regardless of whether they are on the receiving end or have witnessed another student being bullied. âIf someone is making you feel socially or physically unsafe, thatâs the time to speak up,â says Tracee Perryman, the author of Elevating Futures: A Model For Empowering Black Elementary Student Success. Again, only reach out to the school yourself after talking it over with your kid. +
++However, your child may simply be shy and reserved, not the victim of bullying. Perryman says to help build confidence with the kids in your life by reminding them that what they have to say is important and they have valuable interests and insights worth sharing with others. +
++When it comes to social media, Jessica Mungekar discovered teens will âdo what theyâre going to do, whether you want them to or not,â she says. Itâs better to listen if your child is involved with social media-related conflict, remind them they are not in trouble, and support them as you work to create a plan together. âI think itâs important in this day and age for kids to have social media because otherwise they get [alienated] by their peers,â Layla Mungekar says. âBut itâs a lot safer when parents have those conversations, like yeah, this is going to happen and when it does happen, you should feel safe to come to me and not be blamed for that.â +
++Experts emphasize the transitory nature of school. While itâs crucial for students to apply themselves academically and make strides socially, remind them that one speed bump, fight with a friend, blunder, or bad grade will not drastically alter the trajectory of their lives. âItâs better that I make those mistakes now,â Layla says, âwhile I have someone there to help me.â +
++Promote balance to minimize stress +
++Just like adults, kids can get stressed due to the demands of school and extracurriculars, as well as conflicts with friends and family. If kids are sleeping very late on weekends or too tired to do activities they typically enjoy, like spending time with friends, they might need more balance in their schedules, Perryman says. +
++Ask your kid directly: âAre you playing T-ball three nights a week because you like it or you feel like you have to?â or âYou had three extracurriculars last semester and it was really overwhelming for you. Do you want to pick two for this coming semester?â Draughn suggests. Remind your kid that just because they step away from a hobby now doesnât mean they canât come back to it in the future. Make sure students have one weeknight and one weekend day solely devoted to downtime, too, Draughn says. However, donât discount the fact that sports and other activities can be rejuvenating for kids, even if theyâre not resting. +
++Parents and supportive adults are quick to problem-solve for the kids in their lives, but Kendorski stresses the importance of asking, âDo you want me to listen? Or do you want me to help?â Your child might just want to vent about a tough baseball practice. When Layla wants validation and a hug from her mom, she asks her âto be a waterfall.â When sheâs feeling less emotionally charged, then Layla and her mom can problem-solve. +
++For high-achieving students who may be stressed about grades and college applications, Kendorski suggests asking your kids what story theyâre telling themselves about success. For example, they might worry that a bad test grade means theyâll never get into their dream college. Help them map more realistic outcomes by thinking about the absolute worst-case scenario and alternative paths. For example, the worst that could happen if they fail a single test is maybe they get a C for the quarter. But reinforce how if they study and complete all their homework, the likelihood of failing is minimized. +
++Remember not to make your stress their stress. Children are intuitive and can pick up on how the adults in their lives are feeling, Kendorski says. Instead of turning away from uncomfortable emotions, encourage open communication. If youâre disappointed in a mediocre grade, try saying, âIâm feeling a little bummed about the C on that test, but thatâs my issue. I know you work hard and with some more practice, I know youâll do better next time.â +
++Parents should always validate their childâs struggles and encourage caring for their mental health. Whether theyâre seeking support from a trusted teacher or you think theyâd benefit from speaking with a therapist â ask them how theyâd feel about chatting with a professional before scheduling an appointment â remind them that âmental health is health,â Draughn says. That matters more than any test score. +
++Auto workers at the âDetroit Threeâ auto companies could stop work on September 14. +
++Members of the United Auto Workers on Friday voted overwhelmingly to authorize a strike at the so-called Detroit Three automobile manufacturers â Ford, General Motors, and Stellantis â should those companies fail to offer a competitive contract by the time the current one expires September 14. +
++The strike authorization is the latest in a series of high-profile labor actions in the US over the past year, including the ongoing SAG-AFTRA and Writerâs Guild of America strikes, a UPS strike authorization that resulted in a fair contract, and a threatened US railway strike thwarted by the government in December. While all of these actions point to a more visible labor presence in the economy, the UAW strike authorization â much like the SAG-AFTRA and WGA strike â is about more than just the conditions under which workers will perform their duties. What the UAW wants, too, is a say in what the industry looks like as it changes with technological developments like the switch to electric vehicles. +
++The UAW represents about 150,000 workers at the three companies â 97 percent of whom voted to authorize the strike. Shawn Fain, the president of the UAW, indicated that the union would not extend the September 14 deadline to ratify a new four-year contract. Union talks with the automakers started in July, according to Reuters, but have progressed slowly since then, Fain said. âWe have a lot of options that we are looking at but extension on the contract is not one of them.â +
++Fain and the UAW are asking for a series of wage increases and improved or reinstated benefits that offset labor concessions over the past few decades, and which would eliminate the two-tiered employment system that the Detroit Three factories have had in place since 2007. +
++US labor unions enjoyed power and popular support until the 1970s and 1980s, when a combination of a series of corruption scandals and the Reagan administrationâs breaking of the Professional Air Traffic Controllers Organization (PATCO) strike in 1981 greatly weakened collective bargaining. Globalization, especially after the North American Free Trade Agreement (NAFTA) came into effect in the 1990s also weakened worker power, since companies could â and did â move their operations to countries where labor was cheaper, decimating entire industries and swaths of the country. +
++Thatâs led to depressed wages despite high inflation, as well as a decrease in benefits like pensions, even as the cost of living increases. And in 2023, companies can now use the specter of artificial intelligence and automation as a bargaining chip against workersâ futures. +
++The UAWâs proposed contract aims to rectify the past +
++Like all union contracts, the UAWâs is extremely ambitious; unions go into negotiations knowing theyâll have to compromise on some elements of what theyâre asking for, so they aim high. In the case of the UAW, as well as in other striking industries, the contracts are trying to both regain lost ground and protect workers for the future. +
++âWeâre fed up,â Fain told Reuters. âWeâve sat back for decades while these companies continue to just take and take and take from us.â +
++Real wage growth, representing actual purchasing power, has stagnated since the 1980s, only reaching 1983 levels during the Covid-19 pandemic. Overall, wages havenât grown at the same rate as the cost of living, 401(k) plans replaced pension benefits, putting more pressure on the worker to save for retirement â despite a boom in worker productivity over the past 50 years. +
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++The UAW is striking to reverse some of these changes, by including in its contract a demand for a defined-benefit pension and to re-establish the retiree medical benefit program. The union is also demanding a 46 percent wage increase over the life of the contract to keep up with the increased cost of living, as well as reinstituting a cost-of-living allowance which was eliminated in 2009 following the auto industry bailout. With major auto producers on the brink of bankruptcy, the UAW renegotiated its contract at the behest of the federal government. +
++But a major driver of the strike is actually a two-tiered wage system first instituted in the UAWâs 2007 contract; workers hired before that are in the first tier and started at about $28 per hour, while second-tier workers start at between $16 and $19 per hour â a rate that has barely increased over the past decade. The second-tier class of workers grows as first-tier workers retire and are replaced by new second-tier workers, ultimately bringing down wages for an increasing number of workers â who also increasingly make up UAW membership. +
++A UAW strike would seriously impact the auto industry â and labor overall +
++There are several reasons that labor has become more visible over the past few years, and workers seem increasingly willing to demand more from their employers. That doesnât necessarily mean the US is in a new era of labor power, and even that phrase doesnât mean what it did in the first half of the 20th century. +
++Amazonâs Chris Smalls has been a visible figure demanding the right to unionize and better conditions for his fellow workers, and the combined SAG-AFTRA and WGA strikes have been highly visible because they target the entertainment industry, putting peopleâs favorite TV shows and movies on hold until studios and the unions can agree to fair contracts â including the use of generative AI in writing and shooting films and TV shows. +
++Similarly, the UAW strike is not only about raising individual standards of living but also looking forward to the effect that technology could have on jobs in that sector. As the industry shifts from combustion engines to battery-powered electric cars, manufacturing will need fewer workers with different skills, as Michigan State University professor of employment relations Peter Berg told Michigan State University Today. +
++If the strike action does move forward â and Berg told Vox in an interview that he believes it will in some form â it could cost each company as much as $500 billion per week of stopped work, according to Deutsche Bank analyst Emmanuel Rosner. +
++The moment is right for labor to try and claw back losses of the past few decades and try to gain protection and benefits for the future; there is a tight labor market, an aging workforce, high consumer demand, and political and popular support for trade unions. âThese strike actions on the part of labor unions [are saying], âAlright, we have to renegotiate the fundamentals of how work is done,ââ Berg said, and âusing their power to redefine the working conditions going forward.â +
++Imagine a Breitbart comments forum come to life and given immense power over innocent people. Thatâs Judge James Ho. +
++If you could breathe life into 4chan, the dark corner of the Internet where shitposters, edgelords, Groypers, and trolls of all kinds thrive, and then appoint this new lifeform to the federal bench, you would have created Judge James Ho. +
++Ho, appointed by former president Donald Trump in 2018 to the United States Court of Appeals for the Fifth Circuit, recently argued that anti-abortion doctors may seek a court order banning a commonly prescribed abortion medication, because âdoctors delight in working with their unborn patients â and experience an aesthetic injury when they are aborted.â +
++Heâs written that a federal law prohibiting gun possession by people that a court has determined to be a âcredible threat to the physical safety of [their] intimate partnerâ is unconstitutional. Among other things, Ho claimed that this law âshould give us pauseâ because women getting a divorce sometimes seek such court orders as âa tactical leverage deviceâ in their divorce proceedings. +
++Hoâs very first opinion as a judge, a dissenting opinion in a case he did not even hear, claimed that all laws limiting the amount that wealthy donors may give to political campaigns are unconstitutional. Under Hoâs understanding of the Constitution, nothing prevents Harlan Crow, the billionaire Republican donor famous for lavishing gifts on Justice Clarence Thomas, from funding an entire presidential campaign. +
++Also, speaking of Harlan Crow, Ho held his official ceremony swearing him in as a federal judge in Crowâs personal library. +
+++Honored to attend Jim Hoâs swearing in to the Fifth Circuit Court of Appeals today, alongside Justice Clarence Thomas & Judge Jerry Smith. I am confident my good friend Jim will be an extraordinary appellate judge and a principled jurist faithful to the law. pic.twitter.com/s1tWYu2j2c +
+â Senator Ted Cruz (@SenTedCruz) January 5, 2018 +